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A reflection – Barry McGuire’s Eve of Destruction

 

Eve of Destruction (song) - Wikipedia

I was driving home recently when Barry McGuire’s Eve of Destruction came up on my playlist. I hadn’t heard it for quite a while, but as I listened, I was struck by how familiar it sounded. Not because the world it described was the same as the one we live in today (the song was released in 1965), but because the anxiety behind it was. 

Eve of Destruction became one of the anthems of the 60s. 

It’s a song about war, nuclear weapons, racial tension, political violence and a generation wondering where the world was heading. I recall talking to my grandpa, a First World War veteran, about the end of the world. I can only imagine what he thought of the rantings of this grade 6 child, having experienced what must have felt like the end of the world while serving.

Listening to Eve of Destruction in 2026, I found myself thinking that although the circumstances have changed enormously, the feeling that the world is somehow on the brink of disaster hasn’t changed very much at all. In fact, as my favourite person said when I discussed it with her, we are always ‘dancing on a pin ’, and that really we are only a step away from some form of disaster, whether it’s man-made or natural.

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In 1965, the Cold War was at its height. The United States and the Soviet Union had enough nuclear weapons to destroy each other and all of us many times over. The Vietnam War was escalating; we had the draft, thankfully I was too young, but my favourite person’s brothers weren’t!  On the other side of the world, the civil rights struggle was exposing deep divisions within American society. The assassination of President Kennedy was still fresh in people’s minds, and all of this was being presented in our living rooms via television. 

Even as a pre-teenager, it felt quite literally as if we were on the eve of destruction, but we survived. The world didn’t end, and in fact we went through a period of peace and greater harmony.

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So where am I

One of my favourite non-mainstream media reads is The Free Press. While much of it is focused on politics, more and more articles are appearing on softer topics.

I was really taken by The Surprising Pleasures of Widowhood by Elinor Lipman. At the outset, I am not a female, so I am not faced with being a widow, and thankfully, my favourite person is still going strong. However, we have watched our mothers go through widowhood. Both had different reactions, but as I listened to Elinor, I was taken by the term ‘grie-lief’, which I think applied to my mother, who cared for Dad as he suffered cancer and then dementia. Mum did so much of her grieving before he died, and with his passing came a release of sorts. It didn’t mean she was pleased he was gone. He still featured in conversations, and there were photos on the mantel shelves, but Mum got on with her life. Her next few years were ones she got a lot from, and I’m thrilled for her. I miss her and Dad still.

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Is it OK to read at 3 in the afternoon?

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In the last few months, I have started reading fiction again, and I’m enjoying it.

I have read all my life. I read academic literature when I was at university, both as an undergraduate, in the late 70s and then more recently as a postgrad student. In completing my PhD, I must have read thousands of journal articles.  At work, it was professional reading. Oh, the joy of reading an Accounting Standard or recent tax case!

In my leisure, I have also read, but until recently, it has mainly been non-fiction and, as a result, often hard to read. I also read the papers and between my favourite person and I, we have a number of subscriptions to online sites. A couple of these are The Free Press, which I have referred to in earlier posts. Although The Free Press is mainly focused on current affairs, it also offers regular pieces on literature and music, as does another of our subscriptions, Quillette. 

As part of a rethink on ‘What’s Next’, I decided to change direction with my reading. I decided reading for pleasure might be a good way to spend some time and decided to move away from non-fiction. The rethink was also a function of my decision to unburden myself from the constant negative and destructive forces that seem at play in our world. It had become so easy to ‘doomscroll’ and I decided that I no longer wanted to succumb to it. I haven’t been wholly successful in this endeavour, but I’m well progressed.

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Reflections on Dire Strait’s Romeo and Juliet. Was it time and place or is it the greatest love song ever written?

 

Romeo and Juliet / Solid Rock by Dire Straits (Single; Vertigo; 6059 364): Reviews, Ratings, Credits, Song list - Rate Your Music

As has become a habit in recent months, I woke early and lay in bed listening to music. I have found Spotify’s AI DJ to be a useful way to while away the early hours. It produces a mix of songs based on my listening. It can be a bit repetitive, but it’s easy.

 

As I was listening, up came Dire Straits, Romeo and Juliet, a Mark Knopfler song that apparently draws on his failed romance with Holly Vincent. I have always thought it was a captivating and emotional ballad, and while it may not be the critics’ choice, it is head and shoulders above my number one Dire Straits song. 

 

The song’s Shakespearean title sets the scene. To Romeo, it is a tragic tale of unfulfilled love, and although it has gone sour, Juliet is the true love of his life; it is ‘just that the time was wrong’.

 

He, ‘A love struck Romeo sings the street a serenade’ ‘He’s underneath the window’  and is hit with Juliet’s cutting retort ‘Hey, la, my boyfriend’s back’ showing her love has moved on. She passes him off with ‘Oh, Romeo, yeah, you know I used to have a scene with him’ and he’s ’just one of her deals’. The latter is such a put-down. It is a callous rejection. 

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10 years of ‘What’s Next’, I’m ready for the next chapter.

As I prepared to retire from the professional service firm I’d been privileged to be a partner of for more than 20 years, I embarked on a program very much assisted by Tim and Michael.

Michael made me think, and Tim actively challenged me about what’s next. Through many sessions, initially with my favourite person joining me and then just one-on-one, Tim forced me to challenge myself. Amongst the many moments, one sticks in my memory. We were at a retreat ( my firm referred to it as Pinnacle, but for me it was always God’s Waiting Room) for partners and spouses designed to prepare us for leaving the firm and my favourite person and I were sent off to discuss an aspect of my leaving the firm. As usual, we defaulted to discussing the children. Tim checked in and said he’d be very annoyed if we were discussing the children the next time he came by instead of what we were supposed to be chatting about. It was a wake-up call and set me on the ‘What’s Next’ path.

I’ve been on that path for more than a decade. This blog, started in 2013, is just one element. Like my reading of Herminia Ibarra’s Working Identities, it came out of one of the many coaching conversations with Tim.

So, as I click through more than ten years of ‘What’s Next,’ I feel like another change is before me.

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